Change cannot and will not happen overnight. But the intent to evolve will produce opportunities for growth.
Where there is a will there is a way. is an old true saying. He who resolves upon doing a thing, by that very resolution often scales the barriers to it, and secures its achievement. To think we are able, is almost to be so -- to determine upon attainment is frequently attainment itself.
Competing with an other is exhilarating, challenging, and healthy. That is what Games are for. When competition is brought into the social arena it undermines the competitor's self-esteem and confidence. It is a very subtle process. One we must be sensitive to, especially when evaluating our own motivations and behavior.