To make a man perfectly happy tell him he works too hard, that he spends too much money, that he is misunderstood or that he is different; none of this is necessarily complimentary, but it will flatter him infinitely more that merely telling him that he is brilliant, or noble, or wise, or good.

Summary

This quote suggests that people are often more flattered and made happier by criticism or highlighting their struggles than by receiving compliments or praise. It implies that human nature tends to find comfort and validation in reassurance of shared flaws and difficulties rather than being distinguished as exceptional or virtuous. By acknowledging and empathizing with their challenges and uniqueness, individuals feel seen and understood, contributing to their sense of happiness.

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