They were married before they were friends, which is another way of saying:Their marriage was the occasion of their friendship.They were married before they noticed many small differences in background, aspiration, education, ambition. (...)Noting such differences, Leah was in some sense disappointed in herself that they did not cause real conflict between them. It was hard to get used to the fact that the pleasure her body found in his, and vice versa, should so easily overrule the many objections she had, or should have had, or thought she should have had.

Summary

This quote highlights the unconventional nature of a relationship where the marriage came before friendship. It suggests that the union between the individuals was the catalyst for their friendship to develop over time. Despite their differing backgrounds and aspirations, the strong physical connection between them overshadowed any potential conflicts or reservations they may have had. The quote reflects on one person's introspection and mild disappointment in how easily their objections to the differences in their relationship were overcome by their intense physical pleasure and connection.