Because society places a value on masculinity, gay men aspire to it. If you go to a gay club and the doorman says, 'You do realise this is a gay club, don't you lads?' you get all excited because you think, 'Wow, he thought I was straight!'

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This quote highlights the societal pressure for gay men to conform to traditional masculine norms. It suggests that due to the social value attributed to masculinity, gay men often try to embody and project it. The example of the doorman at a gay club reflects the eagerness of gay men to be perceived as straight, an indication that being considered straight is associated with a higher social standing. This quote highlights the complex dynamics and aspirations within the LGBTQ+ community surrounding societal expectations and acceptance.

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