Quote by Stephen L. Carter

True love is not the helpless desire to possess the cherished object of one's fervent affection; true love is the disciplined generosity we require of ourselves for the sake of another when we would rather be selfish; that, at least, is how I have taught myself to love my wife.

True love is not the helpless desire to possess the cherishe

Summary

This quote challenges the conventional notion of romantic love by highlighting that true love goes beyond possession and desire. It suggests that true love actually requires selflessness and discipline, where one chooses to prioritize the needs and happiness of their loved one despite their own desires for self-gratification. The speaker reflects on their relationship with their wife, emphasizing that they have personally learned to love her by consistently showing generosity and putting her needs before their own.

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By Stephen L. Carter

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