Authentic Love - When you truly love another human being, you extend to them the dignity of risk. Love them without fear and embrace them without restrictions. Accept them without wanting them to change to your ideas of their person-hood. Watch them evolve and grow into the realization of their own potential. There comes a time when you recognize they need to journey on without you. Love them enough to let them go. Bless them and release them.
Unconditional love is not affirming another in every decision they make especially when those choices are unhealthy. Unconditional love will risk offending in the name of genuine concern. It will risk relationship for the ultimate well-being of the other. To indiscriminately affirm the unhealthy choices of others is not love at all but perhaps the worst kind of fraud.
People like to say love is unconditional, but it's not, and even if it was unconditional, it's still never free. There's always an expectation attached. They always want something in return. Like they want you to be happy or whatever and that makes you automatically responsible for their happiness because they won't be happy unless you are ... I just don't want that responsibility.