Quote by E. L. Doctorow
You can't remember sex. You can remember the fact of it, and recall the setting, and even the details, but the sex of the sex cannot be remembered, the substantive truth of it, it is by nature self-erasing, you can remember its anatomy and be left with a judgment as to the degree of your liking of it, but whatever it is as a splurge of being, as a loss, as a charge of the conviction of love stopping your heart like your execution, there is no memory of it in the brain, only the deduction that it happened and that time passed, leaving you with a silhouette that you want to fill in again.
Summary
This quote suggests that while one can recall the physical aspects and details of a sexual experience, the true essence and emotional impact of it cannot be remembered. The author argues that the memory of the experience itself is inherently elusive and self-erasing. While one may remember the anatomy and judge their liking or disliking of the experience, the profound sense of being, the feeling of loss, and the overwhelming conviction of love cannot be fully captured by memory. The quote implies that one is left with a longing to relive and recreate the emotional depth and connection experienced during the sexual encounter.