Quote by Erich Fromm

The main condition for the achievement of love is the overcoming of one's narcissism. The narcissistic orientation is one in which one experiences as real only that which exists within oneself, while the phenomena in the outside world have no reality in themselves, but are experienced only from the viewpoint of their being useful or dangerous to one. The opposite pole to narcissism is objectivity; it is the faculty to see other people and things , objectively, and to be able to separate this picture from a picture which is formed by one's desires and fears.

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Summary

This quote highlights that to truly experience love, one must overcome their narcissistic tendencies. A narcissistic person only considers their own needs and desires, viewing everything outside themselves as only useful or threatening to them. In contrast, love requires objectivity, the ability to see others and things as they truly are, separate from one's own desires and fears. By freeing oneself from narcissism and embracing objectivity, one can form genuine connections and experience love in its truest form.

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Love Understanding Humility Selfishness Psychology Empathy Objectivity Narcissism Narcissistic Objective Subjective

By Erich Fromm

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