Quote by Anthony de Mello

I was neurotic for years. I was anxious and depressed and selfish. Everyone kept telling me to change. I resented them and I agreed with them, and I wanted to change, but simply couldn't, no matter how hard I tried. Then one day someone said to me, Don't change. I love you just as you are. Those words were music to my ears: Don't change, Don't change. Don't change . . . I love you as you are. I relaxed. I came alive. And suddenly I changed!

I was neurotic for years. I was anxious and depressed and se

Summary

This quote highlights the transformative power of acceptance and unconditional love. The speaker had been burdened by feelings of anxiety, depression, and self-centeredness, desperately trying to change but failing. However, when someone finally reassured them that they were loved as they are, a profound shift occurred. The pressure to change was lifted, allowing the speaker to relax and truly come alive. In this unexpected embrace of their true self, change naturally and effortlessly manifested. The quote teaches us the importance of compassion and acceptance, as genuine love and support can inspire personal growth and transformation.

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By Anthony de Mello

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