I am not a second option person. It is that or nothing. If it is not the way I see it I prefer not to see it.
One day it just clicks... You realize what's important and what isn't. You learn to care less about what other people think of you and more about what you think of yourself. You realize how far you've come and you remember when you thought things were such a mess that they'd never recover. And then you smile. You smile because you are truly proud of yourself and the person you've fought to become.